Beginner Dildos

How to Choose Beginner Dildos

Your first dildo should feel exciting, not intimidating. A few simple guidelines make it easy to pick a toy you will actually enjoy using.

Start with size

• Length: under 6 inches is plenty for most first-timers. You rarely need more depth than that to feel satisfied.
• Width: under about 1.25 inches is a friendly diameter. Girth is what you notice most, so go slim first and size up later.
• Shape: a smooth, gently tapered tip is easier to insert than a wide, blunt head.

For a deeper dive, read our guide to small, skinny and beginner dildos.

Choose an easy-care material

Body-safe silicone is a great first choice: non-porous, smooth and simple to clean. Glass is also non-porous and very smooth, though firmer. Softer TPE or jelly toys are budget-friendly but porous, so they need extra cleaning care.

Pick features you will use

A suction cup base adds hands-free options; a flared base makes a toy safe for gentle anal exploration. Want buzz too? Many beginners start with a toy from our vibrating dildos or the wider vibrators collection. Some starter sets in this collection, such as strap-on and pegging kits, are designed for couples trying something new together.

Beginner dildo checklist

• Smooth surface: save heavy veins, ridges and knots for later. A smooth shaft is easier to enjoy at first.
• Some flexibility: a toy with a little bend moves with your body rather than against it.
• A base you can hold: a flared base or handle gives you control and makes the toy safe for anal exploration.
• Room to grow: if you think you might want more later, a set with graduated sizes lets you progress at your own pace.

There is no right or wrong way to enjoy your first toy. Some people love deep, slow strokes, others prefer shallow movement or simply the feeling of fullness. Treat the first few sessions as exploration and keep a note of what you enjoy, so your next purchase is an easy decision.

How to Use Your First Dildo

• Give yourself time. Arousal makes everything more comfortable, so start with foreplay or a vibrator.
• Use plenty of water-based lube on both the toy and your body. Reapply often.
• Insert slowly, breathe, and pause whenever you want. Discomfort means slow down.
• Experiment with angles: a slight upward tilt often targets the G-spot.
• For anal play, always use a toy with a flared base and go even slower.

Cleaning and Lube Basics

Wash your toy before and after every use with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner, then air-dry. Store it in a clean pouch.

• Water-based lube: works with everything and is the safest default.
• Silicone lube: don't use it on silicone toys.
• Oil-based lube: degrades latex condoms.

Pick up a bottle from our personal lubricants and you are ready. When you are ready to explore further, browse the full dildos collection.