Wand Massagers

How to choose a wand massager

A wand massager, sometimes called a wand vibrator, has a long handle and a rounded head that delivers wide, deep vibration. That combination of reach and power makes wands a favorite for clitoral stimulation, partnered play and, yes, sore shoulders. Here is what to weigh up.

Full-size vs. mini wands

• Full-size wands are typically around 10 to 12 inches long with a head about 2 inches across. They offer the deepest vibration and the easiest reach.
• Mini and petite wands are travel-friendly and quieter, with slightly less intensity, making them a nice middle ground between a bullet and a full wand.

Rechargeable vs. plug-in

Plug-in wands give steady power that never fades mid-session, but you will need to be near an outlet. Rechargeable wands give you freedom to move and are easier to pack. Check the number of speeds and patterns; some wands offer dozens, while classics keep it simple.

Head and material

Silicone heads feel soft and are easy to clean; firmer heads transmit stronger vibration. Some wands have flexible necks that hug your curves, and dual-ended wands offer two different heads or textures in one toy.

Attachments

Wand attachments fit over the head to change the sensation: nubbed tips, G-spot shafts and sleeves designed for penis stimulation are all common. Check that an attachment is listed as compatible with your wand's head size before buying. A wand saddle or harness holds the wand in place for hands-free play.

How to use a wand massager

• Start low. Wands are strong, so begin on the lowest setting and work up.
• Try using it over underwear, a towel or a sheet to soften the intensity, especially if you are sensitive.
• Move it around: inner thighs, mons and the whole vulva before focusing on the clitoris.
• Use it with a partner during sex, or let them hold it while you relax. Wands are a natural fit for couples play.
• Penis owners can enjoy wands on the frenulum, the shaft or the perineum, or with a compatible attachment.

Wands are for external use unless you are using an attachment designed for insertion. If you are new to toys, our guide on how to use a vibrator covers technique, and a bullet vibrator is a gentler place to start if a wand feels like too much.

Cleaning, care and lube

• Wipe the head and handle before and after use with a damp cloth and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Most wands are not fully waterproof, so do not submerge them unless the product says so.
• Wash attachments separately with warm soapy water.
• Water-based lube is safe for silicone heads and attachments. Avoid silicone-based lube on silicone surfaces.
• Let a plug-in wand rest if the head feels hot after long sessions.

Pick a pairing from our personal lubricants. Your wand ships in a plain, unbranded box, with free US shipping on orders of $85 or more.