Strap-On Harnesses

How to choose a strap-on harness

A strap-on harness holds a dildo against the wearer's pubic bone, leaving hands free and letting your hips do the work. The right strap-on harness is comfortable, secure and compatible with the dildo you want to use.

Harness style

• Panty and brief harnesses: look and feel like underwear, with a front pouch or O-ring for the dildo. Comfortable and easy to put on.
• Thong and garter harnesses: a sexier cut with the same function.
• Strap-style harnesses: adjustable straps around the waist and thighs for a customizable fit.
• Strap-on sets: a harness sold with a matching dildo, the easiest option for first-timers.
• Hollow strap-ons: a hollow dildo on a harness, which some people with a penis wear for extra size or support.

Size and fit

Many panty harnesses come in sizes such as small, medium and large; check the size chart against your hip and waist measurements. A snug fit keeps the dildo stable; a loose harness lets it wobble. Adjustable straps help if you are between sizes.

Dildo compatibility

For use with a harness, a dildo needs a flared base so the O-ring or pouch can hold it. Compare the O-ring size with the dildo's base and shaft diameter; some harnesses include interchangeable rings. Beginners often start with an insertable length of around 5 to 6 inches and a moderate girth. Browse dildos for options, or try a strapless strap-on, which stays in place without a harness.

Materials

Fabric and neoprene harnesses are soft and machine or hand washable; leather looks luxurious and needs a little more care; nylon webbing is durable and adjustable. For the dildo itself, choose body-safe silicone.

How to use a strap-on harness

• Practice putting it on and moving around before the moment, so there is no fumbling.
• Talk first about boundaries, pace and a signal to stop.
• Use plenty of lube, especially for pegging; see our anal lubes.
• Go slowly. Let the receiving partner control depth at first, then build rhythm with your hips rather than your back.
• Try positions where the receiver can guide the angle, like the receiver on top.

For more ideas, read exploring suction cup and strap-on dildos and our guide on how to use anal toys safely.

Cleaning and lube compatibility

• Remove the dildo and wash it separately with warm water and mild soap or toy cleaner.
• Hand wash fabric harnesses in cool water and let them air-dry. Spot-clean leather and condition it occasionally.
• Use water-based lube with silicone dildos; silicone-based lube can damage silicone.
• Never move a dildo from anal to vaginal use without cleaning it, or use a fresh condom.

Every strap-on harness ships in a plain, unbranded box, with free US shipping on orders of $85 or more.