Collars

How to choose bondage collars

Decide what the collar means to you

For some people a collar is a fun accessory for a scene. For others it is a meaningful symbol of a dominant and submissive relationship. A play collar is worn during scenes and can be as bold as you like. A day collar is subtler, something that can pass as jewelry in public. Slim chokers from our fetish clothing collection often fill that role.

Materials

• Leather: the classic choice. Softens with wear, often padded or lined, and pairs well with matching cuffs from leather bondage.
• Neoprene: lightweight, flexible and easy to clean, a favorite for pup play.
• Silicone: smooth, waterproof and simple to wash; some styles carry a playful word.
• Stainless steel: rigid, weighty and often locking. It looks striking but does not flex, so sizing must be accurate.

Features

• D-rings and O-rings for attaching a leash, cuffs or nipple clamp chains.
• Locks: padlocks, key locks or combination locks add ritual. Keep keys where both partners can reach them and note any combination somewhere safe.
• Bells, rhinestones and themes: kitty bell collars and jeweled designs bring a lighter, flirty vibe to role play.

Sizing

To size bondage collars, measure around the base of the neck with a soft tape, where the collar will sit. A comfortable collar leaves room for one to two fingers underneath. Buckle and adjustable styles cover a range of sizes; fixed steel collars come in set sizes such as Medium or XL, so check the measurements carefully before you buy.

How to wear a collar safely

A collar sits on one of the most delicate parts of the body, so this widely shared community guidance matters:

• A collar should never restrict breathing or put pressure on the throat.
• Lead with a leash gently. Never yank, lift or drag someone by a collar.
• Never attach a collar to a fixed point, such as a bed frame, if the wearer could slip, fall or lose balance.
• Do not sleep in a collar, and never leave a collared and restrained person alone.
• Agree on a safe word and keep a key or quick way out within easy reach.

Bondage collars are a natural fit for role play. For ideas, read about the benefits of sex role play, or complete the look with matching cuffs and restraints or a leash and collar set from our bondage kits.

Care and cleaning

• Leather: wipe with a damp cloth or leather cleaner, air dry and condition occasionally. Never soak.
• Neoprene: hand wash in cool, soapy water and air dry flat.
• Silicone: wash in warm, soapy water and pat dry.
• Stainless steel: wipe with mild soap and water and dry thoroughly; keep locks clean and dry so they open smoothly.
• Store bondage collars flat or loosely coiled, away from heat and direct sun.