Fetish Clothing

How to choose fetish clothing

Start with the look you want

• Harnesses: chest, bulldog and O-ring harnesses frame the body and work over bare skin, a tank top or under a jacket.
• Chokers and collar-style jewelry: spiked hearts, O-rings, rhinestones and lockable designs. Many double as a subtle day collar. For full play collars, see bondage collars.
• Statement pieces: spiked leather thongs, fishnet dresses and waist cinchers for parties, clubs and photo-worthy nights.
• Wearable silicone: realistic breasts, male chests, penis briefs and vagina panties for crossdressing, gender exploration, drag and transformation role play. Some styles come in more than one skin tone.

Material

• Elastic and nylon straps: stretchy, lightweight and comfortable for long nights.
• Leather and faux leather: the classic fetish look, sturdier and more structured. See more in leather bondage.
• Silicone: soft, skin-like and realistic, with a satisfying weight.
• Fishnet and lace: sheer, stretchy and easy to layer.

Sizing

Harnesses are usually sold in ranges such as S/M, L/XL and 2XL/3XL. Measure around your chest just under the arms and around your waist, then compare with the size chart on the product page. Adjustable buckles give room to fine-tune. For wearable silicone, check the listed size or cup size and choose the one closest to your frame.

How to wear fetish clothing

• Start with one statement piece. A harness or choker with an outfit you already love is an easy way to try the look before going head to toe.
• Think about the venue. Clubs and fetish nights often welcome harnesses and leather, while a dinner date might call for a subtle choker under a collared shirt.
• Layer it. A harness over a mesh top or under an open shirt reads very differently than one worn alone.
• Do a test run. Wear new pieces around the house first to check that straps do not pinch when you sit, bend or dance.
• Lean into role play. Clothing is the fastest way into a character. Our article on the benefits of sex role play has ideas.
• Mind the neck. Chokers should leave room for a finger or two and never restrict breathing.
• Use the right lube. Around silicone wearables, choose water-based lube, since silicone lube can damage silicone.

Want more to wear? Browse the wider clothing and lingerie collection, or find playful picks for him in men's clothing.

Care and cleaning

• Elastic, nylon, fishnet and lace: hand wash in cool water with mild detergent and air dry flat.
• Leather: wipe with a damp cloth or leather cleaner, air dry and condition now and then. Never soak.
• Silicone wearables: wash gently with warm water and mild soap, pat dry and store flat or in their original shape, away from direct sun and sharp objects.
• Store fetish clothing loosely so straps and hardware do not kink, scratch or tangle.
• Always follow any care instructions included with the product.